Been a while since I've had a good, long-winded discussion. Let's get to it!
>>156164>I'll assume this is the base premise of everything else you posted.Of course. And so far, I've only seen this premise vindicated.
Before I get into my reasons for this being vindicated, I just want you to make a mental note of the fact that you chose to respond to my points, solutions, and minor ribbing, with pieces of your life story. Save that for later, because I'll be getting back to it.
Your story about sadness is, well, sad to hear. Sorry about the break-up, or death, or whatever else might have caused it. However, there's one key point about this story that strikes me as strange. You "
let the whole thing overwhelm you"?
Letting implies passivity. I find it somewhat self-defeating, that you would make yourself spiral downwards even more, but moreover, the passage of time has been used as the universal cure-all for traumatic events throughout history, as ubiquitous as it is passive. At the risk of sounding like a colossal bastard, it was inevitable that you'd move past it, irrespective of how much you amplified it. The only exceptions to this, are primarily those that involve clinical depression, which we both know you don't have.
I'd also like to draw interest to your statement of "negative emotions don't need to be
fled from". Very interesting detail, wonder if we'll see it later?
>If I was passive you would not know of my ideas and they would not have affected you so deeply and so emotionally. I put a lot of content on this board.Well, of course I'm affected emotionally, just not by your ideas, and not for the reasons you think.
Now, are these ideas yours, or the ideas of others?
Is the content you post yours, or is it the content of others?
There's nothing wrong with posting someone else's content, but there's plenty wrong with acting as if it's original to you.
Of course, all that bad psychoanalysis, and I didn't even bring up that last line of "what would happen if we all decided to be passive?". Well, at least you're embracing your own ideas, right? Not terribly wise to mention when refuting your own passivity, though.
But let's get to the real Internet Psychologist® meat, shall we?
>I do have emotions, but negative ones wash off meAhh, the biggest lies are the ones we tell ourselves.
Negative emotions don't wash off of you, they impact you exactly the same way as they do the rest of us. What you experience is simply numbing yourself to the sensation, the feeling of an impact, that they bring about. But here's the thing: numbing yourself to the impact doesn't alter the fact that it changes your trajectory, any less than a Nerf gun shot fails to cause pain, but still grabs and diverts your attention.
Let me explain. I believe you paraphrased that "people only move when the pain of standing still is too great", yes? This entire reply you've given is a marked departure from your usual fare. You see, usually, you post a copypasted article, or a single image, or a bunch of links, or a reply that never exceeds 2000 characters.
This is one of the only times, outside of your UFO thread, that you've posted anything original that was this long, this detailed, and bereft of links.Did I do this? No, not really. I'm just a piece of stimulus. You did it. You changed your posting style, in response to this negative stimulus; the very same negative stimulus you claim to have debased yourself of.
Your post starts with a supercilious remark directed at me. Your fourth block of text places yourself in a defensive, almost victimized position. You've given me personal anecdotes and life stories, for the express purpose not of explaining yourself, but for the purpose of
justifying yourself, of making yourself look good.
That's not a very positive response. In fact, that seems distinctly reactionary, distinctly
negative. Why would one so objective resort to something as unreliable as personal anecdote, be so put onto the back foot like that?
But you know what else it is? It's also a very
diversionary response.
Near the end of my first post, I gave pieces of advice, ways of potentially forging on with a solid answer to these problems you describe. I like to think it was fairly sound and tailored, but sadly, I wouldn't know: I never heard a single mention of these in your follow-up post, beyond a token 'lol no i dont'.
Instead of addressing these, perhaps trying to show me up for not knowing what I'm talking about - which would have been infinitely more effective, by the way - you instead chortled, preened, and ducked your way around them.
That's a lot of text's worth of giving non-answers.
See, people who like making things, and improving upon themselves, they tend to take critique with a certain kind of aplomb: they take the pain of getting chewed out happily, if it means getting a chance to improve themselves, their work, and their methodologies. People who
don't, tend to take criticism as a personal attack, and respond in kind. Sound familiar?
So, let's end this off with the final critical wrap-up, as it tradition.
Negative emotions are supposed to be a spur, a thing to keep you going, to make the positive ones that much more delightful. Yin and Yang. You shunning them, fleeing from them, is a tacit admission of your own apathy and passivity.
You don't want to be arrogant, to avoid errors?
You're already arrogant, already making errors. For all your braggadocio about challenging consensus and getting new information, you rarely allow others to reciprocate in kind.
That emotional investment of mine, my friend, is frustration. Frustration that you've spent a year talking about the same thing, yet instead of refining and iterating it into something actionable, something coherent,
something to be proud of, you've instead chosen to spiral into confirmation bias, egotism, and sloth.
It's sad, too, because I know you're better than this.