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Should I get therapy?
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There were some replies here but I didnt get to read them in time. What did they say?
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Talking to a therapist won't hurt as I see it. If you select to see one, make sure to get an psychiatrists and not a psychologists as the psychologists can only do talk and not prescribe any medicine that might be beneficial. Sometimes using medicine for a short while (subjective to needs) can be helpful and enough. It was for me. It can take some time for medicine to work and give new outlook on life, so expect half a year to a year with probably adjusting before seeing/feeling a change. Change will be gradual too.
I know a lot say you should not take anti-depressive medicine or the like, but I don't see it as a particular bad thing as it can help. This is also why I think looking for a psychiatrists and not a psychologists is key. Because it takes a while for the therapist to get to know your situation and what might help, and then discovering, if you chose to go to an psychologists, there is nothing he/she can do except offer more talk can be a downer.
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Therapy is 90% just getting stuff off your chest and prompts to make you self reflect. I say its better to introspect on your own, but there's no real harm in it. You're basically doing that here now.

I think the more important thing would be setting up your mind, body and surroundings so you feel happy. Introspection helps with that.
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>>3156
Talking things out doesn't necessarily have to be talking. Consider getting a journal.

A pen an paper journal, and write in it. The tactility of using a pen instead of a keyboard to write can sometimes help. Getting your thoughts out and fully written down can tell that part of your mind that's stressed about those thoughts that you've worked through the problems as much as you can. You'll find that you worry about those things less.

You also don't have to only write stuff that bothers you. You can write down the nice things that happen in the day. If you've had a decent meal, a good workout, an interesting dream, et cetera.
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I already have tried that, the most i could do was write about my dreams for a few days until i got bored of writing about a manifestation of my sleeping mind, it doesn't matter to me how much good or bad i do in a single day since it will always be something different the next, call me crazy for not caring about myself but i hate writing about the little things i do throughout the day, i don't care about what i do and neither do i consider it worthy to write down because it doesn't interest me.
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>>3166
You seem to lack patience and focus. These arent practices that are going to work overnight, and progress will always be slower than one would prefer. Theres no magic bullet/cure.
>I already tried that
For how long? A few days? Get real.
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I don't care about writing down what i do throughout my life, i would rather not go through with the process instead of doing it, i have the tools at my disposal but i will do it when i'm ready or when i feel like it, if i do something like writing about my dreams or something i did then i can't bring myself to continue the cycle for more than a couple days otherwise i get frustrated quickly, whenever i have written about them i like it but easily lose interest after repeating the same action with a completely different dream.
I have seen certain things while asleep that directly tell me what is going to happen throughout the week but the dissection of what the hell went on in my head is often too in depth to detail in full, my dreams are complex so it's easier to just not write about them because i often have 4 or 5 dreams per night, i have the choice of not writing them.
Yes i'm very impatient and i hate focusing on a certain task if i don't feel right about doing it, i get bored so i move onto something else or get frustrated and destroy what i have done so it's better not to push myself.
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>>3169
Sounds like boredom and frustration are self defense mechanisms geared toward justifying for you what you do and dont want to do, which seems to include (but is not limited to) pushing yourself.
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>>3170
You are right, thank you.
I can't get over it, i have tried and tried, it has plagued my life, limited all my capabilities and i hate how childish i am when i make a mistake while i was enjoying something like drawing or writing, it has led to me hating what i thought would have been nice to do so many times, i like art but know i would get flustered over something that shouldn't matter so i don't because i know that it would be gone at the fault of my hands.
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>>3171
You need to find someone irl who has been in your shoes and has successfully made the changes you hope to make.
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It's as if this behavior has been engraved into my psyche, it's a part of who i am and i despise it, my father suffers the same mental hardship so maybe i should seek him out and ask him, he is the one who knows since he is the one who has dealt with this longer, he has done things at the fault of himself that he regrets like i have regretted...
Anyways thanks again.
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>>3166
I don't think you really get what I was saying.
Write. Writing = thinking. Just write whatever comes to mind. Aim to fill up a page of writing on a regular basis. If writing out all the details of a complex dream is too much to do, then sketch out the dream in general terms.

Your goal is to train your mind to regularly work through ideas and see them through to the end. The self-reflection and mood alteration (from focusing on good things that happen) are almost incidental compared to this. You're trying to build up good mental habits. Good mental habits are a critical foundational skill to have for just about everything else you do in life.
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>>3177
What?
I never said i needed therapy, you go have fun with your journals and paragraphs of bullshit, doctor.
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>>3177
It's no use, he doesn't want it. Also.
>We're not telling you to develop a new passion, we're trying to get you to develop a constructive habit.
Who is "we"?
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>>3179
He was complaining about writing. There was more than one person talking about using writing as a tool. The "we" refers to all the people who were suggesting using writing, or who were suggesting using some sort of tool and applying it for more than just a few days before giving up on it.
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>>3180
>He was complaining about writing.
There should be another reason for him to not like writing so much.
>There was more than one person talking about using writing as a tool. The "we" refers to all the people who were suggesting using writing, or who were suggesting using some sort of tool and applying it for more than just a few days before giving up on it.
Alright i was a bit confused, what other tools are there?
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>There should be another reason for him to not like writing so much.
I don't like writing if i don't feel like writing and i don't like drawing if i don't want to, if i'm not determined or lack motivation to do so the idea is soon scrapped and forgotten, it's unlikely for me to do either anyhow because it's never had an appeal to me to be good at it or share it with others, is that good enough for you?
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>feel depressed when working
>exhausted, spend leisure time on mindless timewasting shit
>regret it later
>feel insufficient as a man
>resume working

How do you break the cycle?
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>>3278
Glad you still like watching those Japanese 2D picture pornos and drawing swastikas, my interest in art and shows is long gone, it has been replaced by more intimate and intense emotions.
My habits and cycles are dwindling further into the abyss day by day, I have given up on improving myself while my infamousness has only grown alongside my perversions and I have found that this pit of depressive deterioration is a hole that has been gnawing at my soul for a long time, it lingers like a noxious gas cloud that has seeped into my surroundings which continues to haunt my actions like a growing hatred that only waxes in loathe.
Not exactly what I expected but at least he is still running his cycles, albeit in a dissimilar way.
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Also that's me. Why did my ID change?
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>everybody:

>(you):
>Man fuck that Vril guy amirite?
Literally who cares? Besides, you of all people have no grounds to be bitching about other posters, particularly ones who havent been identifiably seen in over a year
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>>3295
Makes sense, sorry about that. I'll stop.
>>3294
>loneliness
I've been there. Playing games with others helps make it go away, but only games where there's communication and a meaningful connection between the players. Team games like League are terrible for this, but have you ever tried Ratz Instagib 2.0?
Next time I go shopping, I'll buy what I need for shepherd's pie.
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>>3296
>I've been there.
We all have at some point.
>Playing games with others helps make it go away, but only games where there's communication and a meaningful connection between the players.
Don't get me wrong I still like games, it's just that there are more interesting or better things to spend time on, team games only often work well with friends yet fall apart without precise communication, well organized groups can steamroll any game they want but must have some knowledge of the game beforehand, a group of speed runners will be faster than just 1 guy trying to get lucky with RNG.
>Team games like League are terrible for this, but have you ever tried Ratz Instagib 2.0?
Heard about it a while ago but wasn't interested enough to look into it.
>Next time I go shopping, I'll buy what I need for shepherd's pie.
Good luck with it, personally I prefer it to lasagna.
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>Eventually people reveal their tragic backstories and it sounds like everyone on the planet had at least one shit boomer parent.
Well stories about good parents is fewer, and the normal and good times seem to be buried. It's personal and to some degree feels like bragging.
Well my grandparents those who were alive had their moments with their children, my parents ect., that qualified for that sometimes. As the grandchild it was different as the good kid, they were nice and caring if different motives.
Frankly my parents are awesome considering everything. Sure there are moments when I disagree or looking back would have adjusted things, but as people they are decent. Wouldn't trade them for anything. They aren't perfect but I love them all the same, and the feeling is mutual.
It's a miracle considering some of the wacky shit that happened with them and around them and their siblings. It makes a person thankful for what they have, and the hardships others went through.

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